I haven't written much, if anything, in the last few months. This time I was busy with shows and volunteer work, and was muse-less when it came to my blog. Now, school has started and I'm hoping I do not fail Trigonometry. As of right now, I'm sitting in the dark of my bedroom, listening to the beautiful voices of Evelyn Evelyn and feeling emotionally vacant.
Not much has really changed.
If you don't know about Evelyn Evelyn, you should get to listening to them. They're brilliant. I'll probably spend an entire blog (another day) just commending them, but I'll give you the brief scoop as of right now: They're conjoined twin sisters that play music together, and they play an extensive collection of circus tunes, ballads, folk music and underscoring as they tell their tragic tale. However, I'm not going to go too much into that right now. They're just the opening sentiment of this blog; the real subject is an idea I've recently developed.
We all have someone that we say is "attached to us at the hip". The person I think of is my little sister and best friend, Emily. We spend a lot of time together, between sleeping over at each other's houses for often days at a time, going on trips together, sharing likes/interests, etc. We have a differences as well (religious following, habits...), but despite those, we grew close at a very fast pace. Not even three months after we met each other, we spent time together at least once a week, and slept over at each other's houses (between concerts and shows) just about every weekend. We are of a different womb, different ages, but we felt as if we were meant to be "fused at the side".
Now, here's my theory: we, the people, have relationships on something that looks like a line chart. There is, of course, a limit to this chart, and when a relationship hits its peak, it either levels or starts to go down. What defeats this idea are two types of relationships, one of them often being marriage. The issue with marriage is it can go one of three ways, generally: The first is that the couple gets too close too fast, and their levels spike. Of course, when they hit their peak, everything goes downhill just as fast. The second is hitting a high at an even pace and levels off, like other relationships. If they reach their downfall, it's very steady and controlled. The third rises slowly, day by day, inch by inch, and never has a point where it goes down. The last two are generally the type that survive. Of course, the chart is invisible, but when a relationship reaches a certain point, the drastic drop can be felt. However, the marriage idea is entirely debatable.
The second is what I call the Side by Side Effect. Compared to other relationships, it's much different. There's a peak or level that's hit, but as they reach their downfall, the relationship doesn't fall apart completely. Usually it only drops a little, but then beings to raise back to a peak, sometimes higher, before falling again. This is an ongoing cycle, and it's entirely normal and shows stability in a relationship. It sort of looks something like this:
This effect can be seen in any "attached at the side" type of friendship, and is very similar to the dynamic of siblings. They say you begin to act like the people you are with the most, and I can entirely believe it. In the little time we've known each other, we can often fill in the blanks on each other's sentences, and often have similar thought patterns. It's NORMAL, and a lot of people experience with at least one person in their life. Ever said the same something at the same time as your best friend without realizing? It's THAT. It's timing, beating, and all really relative.
Now, I could be completely wrong, but that's up to you. The dynamic of the relationship is entirely debatable. There could be NO structure, for all we know. However, I feel most things have a structure that CAN be broken down and explained, and there is reason behind everything. I'm not generally the type of person to think in graphs, but this seems entirely plausible. But, again, that's up to you. What do you feel about the relationship of your "conjoined twin", "sister self" or overall closest bud compared to the relationship you have between your spouse, teacher, or newest friend? Think about it. The reasoning of love itself may just be multiple factors, side by side. It's up to you whether you believe in this fusion or not.
But in a way, we are all connected in a similar way, ready to turn and see someone right at our side.
-MLB
